Friday, March 23, 2012

A Journey of Heartfelt Miles

The beginning of our journey airborne...
A stuning sunset on the evening of our return...
This Peace Pole standing so proudly is on the grounds of the
Board of Education
Main Street, Branford, Ct.

These ornamental blossoms are on the campus of the Yale Medical School
New Haven, Ct. right down the street from Yale-New Haven Hospital where my mom recently was a patient on the 7th floor recovering from surgery.
There I am taking time out to enjoy the flowers, as this was the
First Day of Spring.
When finally arriving home these beautiful blossoms were waiting.
Thank u* Pam~

This journey's been long, but that's what life is after all. All of our journeys one step at a time, intercepting one an other's, but still uniquely personal~

My brother & I went down to Florida on March 1oth, which will be two weeks ago this Saturday. Our mother knew we were coming to bring her home that weekend from the Harbor Beach rehab/nursing home facility in Ft. Lauderdale where she had been staying after being discharged from the local hospital on 1/13/12, since being rescued from her home in Hollywood Florida, due to two compressed fractures of her spine, & her need for surgery & rehabilitation. Our plan was to help bring her back to Connecticut where she has lived for over fifty years, since moving up here with our family from the Bronx. Every imaginable thing was going so perfectly well. The checking in at the airport that my husband had arranged in advance for handicap assistance for my mother went flawlessly. The seating at the front of the plane, also perfecto. Though the flight was about 45 minutes late in departing, nonetheless we had no complaints, as it was smooth travels all the way.

On arriving at Bradley Airport in Windsor Locks right outside of Hartford, my husband, once again kept all the dots connected, as within minutes of talking to him once we landed he was there with my car, & off we went to Reins Deli in Vernon for a much anticipated late dinner, as we were all famished. My brother & I had a real meaningful time together while we were down in Florida, as there were of course quite a bit of loose ends to pull together. Sadly it has become necessary to begin closing down our mom's snowbird condo, due to the state of her health. But we got through it, & had some good quality time during our jaunt down there, including a night out to bring our mother a long craved for hot fudge sundae, & the night prior to our flight back, my brother wanted to be sure we brought her some take out Chinese food, which the three of us all enjoyed together for my mother's last time in the facility's dining room.

The next day, due to road construction on the highway, & a major detour, it was becoming iffy, if we were all going to make the departure on time, but we did, including my brother Dave who needed to return our rental car.
Thus life continued as we were making other plans...

We landed at around 7:10pm on Monday March 12th, & after our celebratory dinner at the deli, I was off to Guilford with my mother via I-91 towards Hartford, & Middletown. It was of course by that time good & dark & thankfully way past dusk, for I have always found dusk, though beautiful, to be my most challenging time of the day to drive. My mother & I arrived at her freshly cleaned & re carpeted condo in the hills at around 10:30pm. It was an excellent ride even on the dark country roads, & we took our time that evening watching some retro TV of The Golden Girls, as we interjected some fun discussions in between the show.

Tuesday of course was the next day, which began our week together with a slew of medical appointments for three consecutive days. Our first full day together was designated to meet with a new primary care doctor. Wednesday was to meet with her specialist, all the way into New Haven at Yale. On Thursday we had a break from traveling & the visiting nurse from the agency we were to meet with had the policy of meeting with new clients in the home in which they lived. All in all it all worked out very well. We kept all the appointments like clock work though challenging at times finding our way to new locations, but we were always punctual, & all the medical professionals my mother met with were excellent, & on target with giving her the best of care.

Everything continued to go extremely well. That Thursday evening during dinner my mother & I discussed the possibility of her having her hair done that evening at the local hairdressing school. I had called the school that afternoon, & as long as we were in route by 6:30pm at the latest it would be possible for her to have a long desired hair dresser's appointment. We were well poised for all of this, as we were done with dinner at just about 6pm, but at around 6:08 my mother very gently got up from her chair, took a few steps, & reached over to pick a bowl of rice up from the table. Next with the small bowl of rice in her hands she leaned slightly, & then dropped suddenly to the floor, landing on her right side. She thought at first that she would be able to get up, so we decided to have her stay in place, & for me to not move her in order to not cause any further injury. In ten minutes it was apparent that 911 needed to be called, for by then my poor mother was crying out in a most serious way from severe pain, brought on by this horrendous injury.

My mother is slowly, ever so slowly on a very slow road to recovery, as she is thankfully once again in a rehab/nursing home facility. These recent chapters for her have been most sad & tragic. She is a little less than a month away from reaching her 85th year. We are prayerfully hopeful that this comes to pass for her in a positive way, & that during this time we are all able to stay positive in body, mind & spirit; in order to stay healthy & to appreciate the moments, & the days of our lives that we are presently living, one day at a time.


To all,~ every individual near & far, wishing everyone good healing, & for it to be truly in~ body, mind & spirit.


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© Mother Lightning of Mother Lightning's Peace Garden


Anonymous said...

Cheryl, what a Heartfelt read. You have been your Mother's Rock... The Wings Beneath her Feet.
You are now both on quite a journey together...Live, Laugh and Learn from one another...there will never be regrets...Have those moments.
I am proud of you dear Friend, keep up the good work.

LoL, Barbara Malin

Mother Lightning said...

Thanks Barb, I'll be in touch again soon. As u* can well imagine some days are better than others.

Dealing w/ the incredible saddness of coming to terms & facing all this presents a real dilemma, but we all walk the path of facing a mortality. It never gets any easier, & at every turn more & more decissions present themselves, which of course adds to the challenge, as we're already overwhelmed w/ a saddness that is w/ us as we face each & every day. Thus walks out & about in a nature, & being w/ friends helps heal the heart, as does your comment, & note.

Lol , & thanks dear friend. ~xo~

awais mirza said...

nice pic,s